As I get older, I've realised that not many people are fortunate enough to have had a truly happy childhood, and I'm no exception. But today, my therapist shared a concept with me that was quite impactful, helping me let go of some of the knots in my heart.
In contrast to a world that often feels like a competition, a family built on love isn't about being the smartest or most capable to deserve more. In a marriage, it's not about the higher earner having more say. Among siblings, it’s not the overachieving sibling getting more love from parents.
Instead, between husband and wife, they complement each other's shortcomings and share sweetness and bitterness together. As parents, it's about understanding each child's needs and balancing attention accordingly - giving more support to those who require it, with the goal of helping each child flourish equally. It turns out that a family is inherently a communist concept.
I'm not a parent myself, so I can't say if this is the perfect way to raise a family. But it makes me wonder: if families were run under a capitalist concept, would the 'weaker' ones end up like Eli from "Time Still Turns the Pages"? And would this kind of competition be good for anyone?
